About Me

In 5th grade, I won first place in my elementary school’s D.A.R.E essay contest — a one page piece about how dance classes kept me drug free. As a reward, I got to read my essay in front of the entire class of 2006 and our families. I like to think it was then that my writing career began.

Hi, I’m Emily.

Aside from my (still budding) writing career, I’m a 25-year-old wife, blogger, and FitFluential Ambassador.

On July 14, 2012, I married my husband, Jordan. He is my best friend, and one of the most patient guys I know.

In 2011, I graduated with my B.A. in Communications from Indiana University, Indianapolis, with hopes of becoming a writer. I’ve written for The Exponent, NUVO Newsweekly, Indy Wellness Guide, and ChaCha.

Because the road to a successful writing career is rarely straight and narrow, it might mean babysitting on weekends to make ends meet, or writing for free in order to grow your portfolio — both of which I’m doing right now. It’s worth it. I promise.

Exercise is my drug of choice, chocolate is my weakness, running is my stress reliever, and I have a slight obsession with Michigan — you’ll see.

Through this blog, I share the adventures that I have with my family and friends, my passion for fitness and health, the journey to becoming a successful writer, and the ups and downs of married life.

As far as “Perfection Isn’t Happy” goes, I have a type A personality, and I have always been a perfectionist. However, I have realized that being perfect is never possible. In order to be happy, you have to let go of perfectionism, and that is exactly what I am trying to do.

Thank you for reading, and I hope that you come back soon! Enjoy!

86 Responses to About Me

  1. Yay, another Hoosier blogger! :-)

    Wow…I am just amazed and in awe of your story. You know, I felt almost the EXACT same was as you, when I was a freshman at IU. I felt strangely alone on such a HUGE campus. But that’s what I was “supposed” to do, right? I thought about moving back home (to Indy) 100 times, but I never had the courage to do it. I graduated with a degree that….I’m not even using right now. :-) So the moral of this long story is: you did EXACTLY the right thing. I can’t imagine the courage it took to take time off, and switch schools. But you, unlike SO many college grads, are actually going to end up doing something you love!

    • Thank you :) . It was very difficult to put my stubborn, “perfectionist” personality aside for a few moments and admit to myself that something was wrong. I think a lot of college students have feelings of doubt at school, but no one really talks about those feelings, or that’s it’s okay to take a different path. (In my opinion) it’s a little ridiculous that we have to pick what we want to do for the rest of our lives when we’re 17 or 18 anyway.

  2. Amy says:

    Hey fellow Hoosier!
    I find you story so beautiful and touching. I go to IU and understand how easy it is to get lost in a huge crowd! Life is about creating a balance that works for you…there is no right and wrong. Congratulations on you decision and I can’t wait to start following your blog!

  3. This is a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing it! I’m also a perfectionist, kind of working myself into insanity recently… last quarter was not pretty :/

    So it’s very inspiring to read your story, and I look forward to reading more! :)

  4. I’ve been the same way (I need to get more motivated!)…haha

  5. Hi! I just found your blog- thank you so much for sharing your story! I am really looking forward to reading more :)

  6. I too am a fellow Hoosier blogger, nice to meet you friend!
    I live in a NE suburb of the city. I am over the snow and can’t wait for spring AMEN!
    Your “letting go of perfection” hits close to home for me. It’s a struggle to keep up a facade of being perfect to everyone else because that’s what they think of you, when inside you are struggling.
    Love your story and good for you for making a tough, but right decision!

  7. I can relate to your story in so so many ways. Thanks for sharing your story!

  8. I definitely remember after the novelty of college wore off – about 6 weeks into freshman year – I was hit with the hard reality that I was in a strange place, with no one I really knew or could trust. I’ve talked to a lot of younger kids who went through similar confusions and always try and reassure them that it’s normal – just no one ever warns you about it! Eventually it all works out for everyone – college wound up being an amazing 4 years. I’m glad you found your happy place!

  9. Scarlett says:

    Emily, I love your blog! I am also a 20-something trying not to be such a perfectionist, and I was also an RA in college…though I went to IU, so the percentage of you that feels tied to the Boilermakers should probably resent me. ;)

  10. I absolutely agree with what you said… you need to love yourself first. Knowing who you are and accepting yourself is the first step to happiness. Then you can be free to love someone else completely. :)

    Love this page!

  11. Melissa says:

    Love your story!! And I’m learning to love myself before I can move forward to be in love with anyone! Your blog name is amazingly on the spot. loving your blog!!

  12. LOVE your blog hun! Keep doing your thang :)
    Wendi

  13. Love your story! We have a lot in common! Yay for being recent graduates..with B.A.’s in communications!! :)

  14. I just found your blog, and I love it! you have an amazing story, glad I discovered it :)

  15. amj08e says:

    loved reading your blog! you are an amazing writer but I am sure I am not the first to tell you! perfectionism is not something easy to overcome especially when so many don’t understand the demands it can put on one. it is really inspriring to hear of a young girl who is finding her life in her own terms! looking forward to keep reading your blog!

  16. I found your blog from a comment of ELR and I am just starting blogging. I’m from Indiana too and its so great to see hoosiers in the blog world! I love your story and it speaks greatly to me, except I never made the leap and stayed at my college. I did find my fiance at that school though, so I can’t be too angry.

    Good luck with everything!

  17. spectacuLAUR says:

    I’ve struggled my entire college career, as well. I’ve gone through so much it’s ridiculous and I know exactly what you mean by focusing on things you can control (like eating/exercising). I’m having a rough time now and because of my constant issues with roommates (drug addict, alcoholic, etc), I really don’t have anyone to turn to. You’re inspiring and beautiful! I’m glad I stumbled upon your blog :)

  18. Claire says:

    I started tearing up at your story! I’m going through the same thing–I’m currently a junior in college and not “having the time of my life,” like everyone told me I would. I am way too hard on myself and constantly strive for perfection, even though I know it doesn’t really exist. Your story really touched me and (though it’s too late for me to transfer,) it’s good to hear that there is hope!

  19. This is a very sweet story and you are brave to share it with everyone :)

    I am so happy you “found yourself”, so many people go through life just “going through the motions”.

    The grown up world is hard, but it also has so many great opportunities :)

  20. I’m probably the only guy to [ever] post on here (I’m not afraid or I’m just too stupid to be worried of ridicule) but here it goes…

    This is cool Emily, I didn’t know all this about you (anything, actually, since I really haven’t taken any time to read your likes/bio, etc., on Facebook until today when you said you were engaged…congrats and I wish you two the best!). You seem like a very level-headed but personable individual, and, it’s funny, but you remind me a bit like myself (not that you could necessarily tell the way I clown with my terrible puns and “80′s sweaters” at work).

    You’re a very creative writer and –if I may say so– [scratch that phrase...this comment box doesn't let me do that] you keep it up. :)

  21. intrepidtraveller says:

    Great blog and inspiring story, I hope 2012 brings you even more happiness! :)

  22. Laura says:

    What a beautiful, heartfelt post. I am the same age as you (I also started college in 2006) and I too have had my share of challenges and learning experiences. I started my own blog in May 2011 as a way to write (one of my favorite activities) and to document how I am working to get over an eating disorder, which I attribute to have always been a perfectionist. Reading your bio reminds me of myself because I attribute my eating disorder (and all the mental confusion and anguish that comes with it) to being a perfectionist and “people pleaser”. Anyway, sorry for the long ramble, I just feel so happy that I stumbled upon your blog because I feel like I can relate to you. Cannot wait to start following you!

  23. Caitlin C. says:

    Hey, thanks for the Twitter follow! Glad to have found your blog. I am currently struggling with body image perfectionism and working on trying to be less controlling with eating and exercise. I hope we can help each other out and I can’t wait to keep reading your posts! I minored in Comm BTW – we’ve got a bit in common there too!

  24. emiliemarie says:

    I felt the same way as you during most of college. I lasted one semester at a private school – partly due to struggling with an eating disorder and partly because I just felt so out of place. I transferred to a local school and commuted from home and it was so much better for me. I have always felt embarrassed that I couldn’t hack it at college like most people do. Anyway I’m really glad I found your blog, you’ve got me hooked!

  25. You have such a great story. I’m also a bit of a perfectionist and it’s hard to let go. HUGE kudos to you for making a hard decision (taking the semester off and becoming an intern) that ended up being the right decision. It’s amazing when things work out that way. :)

  26. Julia says:

    perfectionism is both a blessing and a curse in my life. I have the same struggles: introverted, perfectionistic, and beating myself up when I inevitably don’t live up to my standards.

  27. Julia says:

    Also, it’s funny that I stumbled upon your blog, because I JUST wrote a post on perfectionism. Perfection is….not being perfect: http://wp.me/pVLR9-12g Not trying to promote my blog or anything, just thought it was ironic.

  28. Just wanted to let you know I just tagged you in my post and awarded you the “Liebster Blog Award” :)

  29. Laura @ Joyful Shimmy says:

    I just stumble upon your blog and I love it. I too donated my hair a few years ago to locks of love. I too have struggle with being an overachiever, the need to fit in. I love the reminder that It comes from accepting what are true authentic self wants us is where happy lives not the other way around.

  30. Wow! Emily, this post really moved me. It’s stories and words like these that remind me, we are all in this together. We are not alone! I can totally relate to your struggles with perfectionism and how it can overwhelm us to the point of breakdown. My perfectionist tendencies led me to a very dangerous path..eating disorders, depression, you name it. I have fought through it and am at a much better place, but I still struggle with it at times..
    However, I always try to remind myself of how much God loves me no matter what! he loves me for who I am..and I am special in his eyes! your post reminded me of this once again..and I thank you

  31. alexxrae says:

    Cheers to you, brave girl. Life is worthwhile and healing is possible. Isn’t life delicious? Keep fighting the good fight.

    A.
    http://www.wildheartcity.wordpress.com

  32. Jodi J says:

    I love reading your blog because even though I might be living all the way in the Caribbean, we still have a lot in common. I recently graduated as well and I am trying to figure out myself and what I really want. Thanks Emily for sharing your story!!

  33. Hi Emily!
    Have to say — I really love the message you’re (succeeding in) sending. It really spoke to me, deep inside. I, too, struggle with perfectionism. It’s a very vicious cycle, almost debilitating at times. I look forward to continuing to follow you!! Thanks for sharing your story and your insights!! :)

  34. LOVE THIS! you are totally right…it’s not about being OK with a bad hair day, it’s about finding the root of the problem and loving and accepting yourself. i can never hear that enough times :) love the blog, keep it up!

  35. A Hoosier blogger! I love it. What half marathon are you training for?

  36. Alyson says:

    I really like your blog concept “Perfection isn’t Happy”! Too many people think they need to have everything to be happy with their life! It is important to finding interests that YOU love, surround yourself with POSITIVE people that make you feel good about yourself, and be SUCCESSFUL reaching your OWN goals….these things make me happy! I look forward to following your blog!

  37. We have so many similarities, Emily! I got married June 16th this year… I also just graduated college but haven’t found the right job yet. I ran my first half-marathon in October 2012. And we’re both admitted type A perfectionists! It’s like we’re living the same life this year, in a way! So cool to “meet you.” :)

  38. Love this blog title. Sounds like the story of my life. I also absolutely LOVE indy! i lived there during an internship and would love to live there again at some point!!! Looking forward to reading more! :-) -Vicky D

  39. Hi Emily! I came across a few comments you left on other blogs and was really intrigued by the name of your blog (I struggle with perfectionism as well) so I decided to click over. I’m so happy I did! Your blog is a pleasure to read and I’m looking forward to reading more :)

  40. Corbin rayman says:

    I diddnt know u had a blog. I just like read your whole blog I love you Emily.

  41. laurasmess says:

    Hi Emily! Haha, I love the name of your blog! Like you, I used to be a complete perfectionist, a typical Type A personality… over the years I think that I’ve mellowed considerably to the point where I can now tolerate my husband leaving things all over the living room (all the time!) whilst also creating muddy footprints and forgetting to put the milk back in the fridge! Oh, and if I don’t get something completed? There’s always tomorrow! It’s definitely been a hard journey towards ‘reform’ though. You are completely right – leading a more relaxed lifestyle, letting things go… it’s like taking small steps towards happiness and increased satisfaction with the way things are now. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. I look forward to reading more of your adventures as the year progresses :)

  42. Hi Emily,

    I stumbled upon your blog, and just wanted to let you know I really love it!
    My favourite thing is probably the honesty and genuine way in which you write, I really admire that because that’s so hard to do online.

    Just like you, I’m definitely prone to being a perfectionist, and I’m working everyday to let things go, stop over-analysing things and controlling things; and just going with the flow of life and being happy and content with it all :)

    Keep blogging!

    Kloe x

  43. I love that you have the same addiction to chocolate as me ;) Glad we connected through our blogs and I’m looking forward to keeping up with yours!

  44. Courtney says:

    GREAT blog! I absolutely love your wedding dress, too :)

  45. I just found your blog and have been reading through some archives. Love it! Thanks so much for sharing a part of your soul with us!

  46. Kirstie says:

    Now that I know you blog I’ll be sure to follow! Getting the opportunity to capture your external beauty allowed me to witness the beauty within! Keep up the great work and opportunities will present themselves; ppl are reading! :) . Take care, Kierstie-

  47. Amy says:

    I just stumbled upon your blog and I love it! What is perfect is YOUR BLOG’S NAME! I love it; it is so spot on in how to best lead a healthy lifestyle. And you have perfectly described my type-A personality as well :)

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